How a student’s life can unfold:
Middle & High school
Some ADHDers do ok in middle school and even high school – they are bright kids and have figured out a way to get enough done to stay on track. Changing classes every hour helps keep them engaged and chances are they are bouncing between classes getting some of their energy and wiggles out. Or they just love learning and the requirements and structure of school are a good fit for them.
Increased workload
Some students moving up to middle school and high school have a hard time with the increased workload. The amount of homework, tracking different teacher’s expectations and need for good time management skills is too much. They fall behind or feel they are constantly scrambling to keep up and their stress levels go way up.
Remembering that time management is a learned skill is important. It takes time to learn and then really become good at new skill. Allow your kids the time they need in middle & high school.
How to support
Because of the increased demands on your student’s executive function in middle school and high school they will need more support. It can often feel like you are doing too much for them, or you fear they won’t learn the skills needed. Offering support to your child with ADHD is the best thing you can do. Their executive function is slower to develop and they need support longer than their peers. They need more time to hone their skills. Leaving the repercussions to teach them the lesson can be crushing for many students. I find support is the kinder way to help them transition to upper levels of school.
And that’s ok! You aren’t on the “normal” parenting train, your journey will be different. You will need to support your high schooler more than other parents.